Maybe You Could Be Straight

In theory, not in practice. Maybe you could be straight. Except as an adolescent there was emphasis placed on you socializing with the same sex for friendship and the opposite sex for that one thing. You know, that one thing we tend to associate as love that isn't: pelvic thrusting.

I think we've done ourselves a great disservice associating love with intercourse instead of friendship. It has been my experience that it is possible to have and enjoy sex without love, but I cannot say the same for friendship. Any friendships I've called myself having that were void of love definitely felt like it. And really, no amount of sex I had with someone with our relationship void of friendship ever made me feel like love was there. All that to say, if you've been conditioned to reserve genuine friendship for people of the same sex and that is all you've ever practiced, well...maybe you could be straight, but that's pretty gay.  

I'm not trying to convince you of anything. Some of my closest friends are straight. I'm just saying. If I were only straight because God said I'd be in his favor if I loved a man or be banished to hell if I did not, I don't think I'd be able to convince myself that my feelings were genuine. Love is not derived from prompt, persuasion or guilt. Love transcends imposed norms and asks us to be our most authentic selves to experience it in it's purest form. It flourishes in an environment of honesty, mutual respect, and genuine connection, beyond societal expectations and pressures.

Shit. Maybe I could be straight. But, I'm just like you, a product of my environment. An environment where women kept me fed, clothed, cared for, and loved. They were my role models and my source of comfort. It's no wonder that my heart naturally seeks that same kind of love and connection with women. So, maybe my sexuality isn't about defiance or rebellion; it's about being true to the love and care I've known and striving to find that same authenticity in my relationships.

How about you?

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